I can only imagine how many gay bloggers have speculated on Heath’s passing. 28? He was still a baby.

But, in the media frenzy I’ve seen, it reminds me strongly of other babies who died before their time. Like Marilyn Monroe. Another beautiful blonde with talent. I can’t pretend to know whether Heath’s death was intentional or accidental. I do think that living in Soho in New York couldn’t have been very good for an Aussie. I once considered putting a bid on his house in Australia. Brokeback had just come out, he was hot stuff, and the house nicely priced.

My biggest concern, however, is how we react to this tragedy. I want us to mourn a good talent, not a gay icon. He was beautiful, to be sure. Yet we must bypass our crushes on him and simply feel for the family he left behind. Rest in peace, Heath. The angels do sing and you’ll hear them.

- Jack X

Vids are great - especially EC’s - but there’s still something about still photos that’s more erotic. When you look at nothing but a picture your imagination is free. You don’t need to get into the action a porn director felt was hot - you summon it in your mind.

And I love celebrity porn. I know it’s mostly photo-shopped. Yet it’s so exciting to imagine yourself with these hot stars. Is that really Jake’s dick up there? I doubt it. But who cares? The image is quite fine enough.

Then there’s Gary Conway, from way back when. He posed for Playgirl without ever showing his meat. Sexy as all get out.

- Jack X, still in love

When I was young and first starting jerking off, I never understood the whole cut/uncut thing. I thought all men were uncut and I didn’t understand how any guy could get into foreskin. There was something crude about it. It turned me off. I wanted my cocks clean, with fat mushroom heads unencumbered by extra skin.

Now I have different ideas. I love the erotic quality to a man beating off with all that surplus. And I love how funky it can be - it’s amazing to taste the musk of of uncut cock, to lick under the foreskin. It’s primitive and primal and hot as all hell.

- Jack X

One day till Enrique’s big party. Who’s going? What you wearing? But, as I’m sort of a Net expert on gay dating, let me provide a few tips.

- Don’t go there looking for sex, no matter how hot EC’s boys are. Don’t misunderstand me; I know it’s all about sex. But I’ve had a lifetime of experience with these scenes and I tell you that nothing is more attractive than not needing it. Keep your head cool, calm and collected. They will come.

- Avoid recreational substances. I know, we turn to them for better attitudes. They don’t work. Diet Coke and great music actually performs the same trick.

- Somebody let me know how hot EC really is.

- Dance. Just keep your arms down, in straight-man fashion. And, lastly, have a great time.

- Jack X

No, I’m not talking about the U2 bass player. I’m talking about what I’ve talked about before - holding off. God, it feels good. The bad thing about beating off is that there’s nothing coming after. You’re left with no fantasy, left alone with no hard-on. there’s nothing to…look forward to.

But when you save it, when you practice great control to not cum, you feel a little bit on top of the world. You feel like a stud. You’re ready for anything that might come by in the next hour. You’re manly and you’re loaded.

Granted, this isn’t easy, especially after you watch a hot EC video. It’s worth it, though. When I go down the street to the market, I feel empowered and I like to see the other men bulging too. It makes curling into your bed even better.

- Jack X, hands off