For a lot of years, I’ve known white gay guys who won’t go near another white gay guy. As I may have said, I call this the ‘Mandingo’ complex, a reverse-racism of dick.

Now it seems I’m getting yet another revelation in my middle age. That is, black dudes are hot to me and not because they’re black, necessarily. It’s taken way too long but I think my seeing black men as just plain men - not an easy feat for a blue-collar NJ man - is finally happening. I’m not proud of this delay factor. I’m being, in fact, brutally honest. I only know that sitting by a hot black stud at a bar last night got to me in a purely man-to-man manner. I wasn’t thinking of jungle love. I wasn’t thinking of slave trade, or some idiot sense of bigger black dick. I was simply knocked out by a sexy, dark man.

- Jack X